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Nov 2024

Nov 7, 2024 | why i type in (almost) all lowercase
Nov 7, 2024 | coaching insight: because all people should valued equally, no one gets to be better than others at things

Sep 2024

Sep 30, 2024 | happy "no new things" day 2024!

Aug 2024

Aug 25, 2024 | book review: the new saints — from broken hearts to spiritual warriors

Jul 2024

Jul 28, 2024 | boundaries: it's easier to go from tight to wide than to go shrink from wide to tight
Jul 22, 2024 | unleashing alternative futures: challenge accepted
Jul 11, 2024 | an important uncle step: with maya for a week

May 2024

May 14, 2024 | toni phillips on the way to retire
May 8, 2024 | why i don't like AI: it mostly uses english and only has access to the internet

Apr 2024

Apr 27, 2024 | how have these degrees made me relate differently to blackness? (part 2)
Apr 26, 2024 | how have these degrees made me relate differently to blackness?
Apr 24, 2024 | examples of short and long organizational pauses

Mar 2024

Mar 20, 2024 | a thought from katherine: taking the fangs out of taking space
Mar 18, 2024 | black history/futures: a mile
Mar 1, 2024 | family vacation: an oxymoron - follow up

Feb 2024

Feb 23, 2024 | black history/futures: allying with earth
Feb 21, 2024 | couple coincidence: younger firstborns with older lastborns
Feb 20, 2024 | black history/futures: ending the oil addiction
Feb 18, 2024 | black history/futures: allying with air
Feb 7, 2024 | black history/futures: allying with fire
Feb 6, 2024 | black history/futures: allying with water
Feb 3, 2024 | black history/futures: the prick

Jan 2024

Jan 31, 2024 | sabbatical reflections: integration
Jan 31, 2024 | sabbatical reflections: coming back online
Jan 29, 2024 | book review: the art of receiving and giving: the wheel of consent
Jan 28, 2024 | what is 'enough' when you're working for justice?
Jan 28, 2024 | cohabitation experimentation
Jan 26, 2024 | sabbatical reflections: going offline
Jan 25, 2024 | sabbatical reflections: my partner
Jan 23, 2024 | 2024 intention: be like water (in all its forms)
Jan 22, 2024 | fasting for gaza
Jan 20, 2024 | grieve, even as things are getting better
Jan 20, 2024 | a couple thoughts on doing hybrid retreats
Jan 19, 2024 | when the person who caused harm is no longer around
Jan 18, 2024 | unleashing alternative futures: the time auditors (part 2)
Jan 17, 2024 | unleashing alternative futures: the time auditors
Jan 16, 2024 | sabbatical reflections: reading
Jan 14, 2024 | relationship styles: independent, dependent, interdependent, co-dependent and counter-dependent
Jan 13, 2024 | sabbatical reflections: wood stoves
Jan 12, 2024 | color the water: my first surfing lesson
Jan 11, 2024 | book review: anger: wisdom for cooling the flames by thich nhat hanh

Dec 2023

Dec 27, 2023 | family vacation: an oxymoron
Dec 21, 2023 | deathnote #5
Dec 19, 2023 | hutch's reactive teaching
Dec 11, 2023 | movement phrases to let go: "which side of history are you on?"

Nov 2023

Nov 26, 2023 | "whose mouth do you kiss in?"
Nov 22, 2023 | sabbatical reflections: night canoeing
Nov 16, 2023 | "what's our first fight going to be about?"
Nov 15, 2023 | happy "no new things" day 2023!
Nov 5, 2023 | sabbatical reflections: setting the scene
Nov 3, 2023 | sabbatical reflections: fear

Oct 2023

Oct 30, 2023 | sabbatical reflections

Aug 2023

Aug 14, 2023 | fall 2023 sabbatical

Jul 2023

Jul 30, 2023 | book review: king warrior magician lover: rediscovering the archetypes of the mature masculine
Jul 2, 2023 | unleashing alternative futures: covid was (is) practice

Jun 2023

Jun 30, 2023 | unleashing alternative futures: letter to my grandma
Jun 30, 2023 | how did going through my undergrad and grad school programs impact my life?
Jun 23, 2023 | what's in a name?: the ableism of dialogue walks
Jun 20, 2023 | bring your analysis and be with the particular
Jun 17, 2023 | calendar defragging with ayushi roy
Jun 11, 2023 | participation (in meetings) is not the same as transparency
Jun 11, 2023 | book review: burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle

May 2023

May 28, 2023 | uncle tips for kids in boston

Apr 2023

Apr 26, 2023 | revolutionary uncle manifesto (v2)

Mar 2023

Mar 10, 2023 | grieving even when things are improving
Mar 1, 2023 | trauma bonding vs healing bonding

Feb 2023

Feb 16, 2023 | more thinking: emergence, spontaneity, randomness, and impulsivity
Feb 14, 2023 | charted territory: routines in times of change
Feb 8, 2023 | self-mastery: positive intelligence saboteurs
Feb 7, 2023 | book review: the body keeps the score by bessel van der kolk
Feb 4, 2023 | scheduling is hard work: how to not make it harder

Jan 2023

Jan 14, 2023 | book review: until we reckon by danielle sered

Nov 2022

Nov 19, 2022 | book review: good strategy, bad strategy by richard rumelt
Nov 19, 2022 | book review: rest is resistance by tricia hersey
Nov 10, 2022 | relationship recovery time: retrograde shadows

Oct 2022

Oct 30, 2022 | book review: the communist manifesto by karl marx & friedrich engels
Oct 21, 2022 | happy "no new things" day 2022!
Oct 20, 2022 | metaphor: leaves changing colors in fall
Oct 8, 2022 | sit time from mother earth
Oct 5, 2022 | encouragement to show up fully when you are away
Oct 3, 2022 | book review: captive genders: trans embodiment and the prison industrial complex
Oct 2, 2022 | book review: the compassion book

Sep 2022

Sep 27, 2022 | le'mn "movement" music 2022
Sep 23, 2022 | grief when friends have babies
Sep 22, 2022 | unleashing alternative futures: what if trees were beings?

Aug 2022

Aug 3, 2022 | run thoughts: trump and bezos as doro; u.s. military as the world's largest social welfare program

Jul 2022

Jul 29, 2022 | webs on webs
Jul 2, 2022 | grief at work

Jun 2022

Jun 20, 2022 | why i might call you to set up our next meeting
Jun 18, 2022 | unleashing alternative futures: pre-existing conditions
Jun 15, 2022 | how could you look your magic in the face and turn away from it?
Jun 3, 2022 | on equity and liberation

Apr 2022

Apr 29, 2022 | you actually don't need a more diverse staff to be an anti-racist organization
Apr 28, 2022 | wellness and balance course for roddenberry fellowship
Apr 27, 2022 | unleashing alternative futures: pool party
Apr 19, 2022 | my inbox zero routine
Apr 8, 2022 | resources on feeling your feelings
Apr 6, 2022 | book review: amusing ourselves to death by neil postman

Mar 2022

Mar 31, 2022 | some thoughts on napping
Mar 30, 2022 | grief thoughts on the first anniversary of caden's passing
Mar 23, 2022 | book review: healing resistance by kazu haga
Mar 22, 2022 | unleashing alternative futures: hard things
Mar 10, 2022 | why i don't do RFPs
Mar 8, 2022 | collection of group agreements
Mar 4, 2022 | book review: america's racial karma by larry ward
Mar 1, 2022 | book review: centering prayer by m. basil pennington

Feb 2022

Feb 28, 2022 | book review: no bad parts by richard schwartz
Feb 26, 2022 | rest in 2022
Feb 25, 2022 | book review: the nonprofit strategy revolution
Feb 19, 2022 | liberation tarot essay with footnotes
Feb 14, 2022 | book review: the creation of patriarchy by gerda lerner
Feb 2, 2022 | notes on the birth center equity winter co-director retreat

Jan 2022

Jan 22, 2022 | 2022 honor tax commitment
Jan 17, 2022 | book review: essentialism by greg mckeown
Jan 12, 2022 | winter 2022 covid stance: let it go
Jan 10, 2022 | "throwing the miracle away with both hands"
Jan 6, 2022 | adopting two rules for my coaching practice

Dec 2021

Dec 31, 2021 | unleashing alternative futures: covid fun guy
Dec 16, 2021 | cohabitation tips
Dec 7, 2021 | book review: set boundaries, find peace by nedra glover tawwab

Nov 2021

Nov 30, 2021 | book review: zen spirit, christian spirit by robert e. kennedy
Nov 25, 2021 | top 3 uncle tips
Nov 19, 2021 | revolutionary uncle manifesto (v1)
Nov 15, 2021 | book review: mindset by carol dweck
Nov 6, 2021 | happy "no new things" day 2021!
Nov 5, 2021 | book review: an indigenous peoples' history of the united states by roxanne dunbar-ortiz
Nov 4, 2021 | book review: i feel your pain by niki elliot

Oct 2021

Oct 22, 2021 | goodbye, mama brown
Oct 17, 2021 | book review: the social profit handbook by david grant

Sep 2021

Sep 29, 2021 | knowledge paradigm versus wisdom paradigm
Sep 28, 2021 | toxic patriarchy
Sep 24, 2021 | fall 2021 full moon circles for queer men
Sep 17, 2021 | book review: holding change by adrienne maree brown
Sep 11, 2021 | uncle-ateral decisions
Sep 4, 2021 | book review: impact networks by david ehrlichman

Aug 2021

Aug 12, 2021 | alternative futures: distributed parental/communal leave
Aug 11, 2021 | book review: the smell of rain on dust
Aug 11, 2021 | book review: undrowned
Aug 11, 2021 | book review: mushroom wisdom
Aug 10, 2021 | book review: a world without email
Aug 9, 2021 | book review: we do this til we free us
Aug 4, 2021 | oppressive systems condition us out of certain emotions

Jul 2021

Jul 28, 2021 | black sci-fi book club: the deep
Jul 14, 2021 | sitting down to pee

Jun 2021

Jun 4, 2021 | notes from the virtual art of leadership at rockwood

May 2021

May 24, 2021 | black sci-fi book club: babel-17
May 14, 2021 | book review: the pocket thich nhat hanh
May 13, 2021 | 4-day work weeks
May 8, 2021 | colonial mindset: want to change others without being changed
May 3, 2021 | book review: how we show up: reclaiming family, friendship, and community by mia birdsong

Apr 2021

Apr 18, 2021 | between vaccines: a potential threshold
Apr 17, 2021 | fall plant teachers
Apr 17, 2021 | why i think monogamy is as hard if not harder than consensual non-monogamy
Apr 16, 2021 | building trust: vulnerability, risk, and relationship
Apr 16, 2021 | i am 32 today
Apr 16, 2021 | unleashing alternative futures: language of the future - triquetra
Apr 16, 2021 | phrases that need to die: i'm sorry for your loss
Apr 16, 2021 | people who break boundaries are (often) people who haven't had their boundaries respected
Apr 14, 2021 | book review: the drama of the gifted child by alice miller
Apr 9, 2021 | book review: on death and dying by elisabeth kübler-ross
Apr 6, 2021 | emotional labor is physical labor

Mar 2021

Mar 30, 2021 | some thoughts on grief while grieving
Mar 22, 2021 | book review: african religions by jacob k. olupona
Mar 21, 2021 | book review: love and rage by lama rod owens
Mar 15, 2021 | what's next?
Mar 7, 2021 | book review: how to do nothing by jenny o'dell
Mar 5, 2021 | book review: the art of war by sun tzu
Mar 1, 2021 | book review: we will not cancel us by adrienne maree brown
Mar 1, 2021 | book review: the practice by seth godin

Feb 2021

Feb 27, 2021 | book review: how long 'til black future month?
Feb 1, 2021 | black sci-fi book club: the city we became

Jan 2021

Jan 28, 2021 | book review: beyond survival
Jan 27, 2021 | book review: the next american revolution by grace lee boggs
Jan 26, 2021 | book review: the wild edge of sorrow by francis weller
Jan 24, 2021 | revolutionary uncling
Jan 13, 2021 | nadav's calendar / time audit tool
Jan 10, 2021 | notes from on being interview with agustín fuentes
Jan 9, 2021 | end of my saturn return

Dec 2020

Dec 31, 2020 | book review: the next american revolution by grace lee boggs
Dec 30, 2020 | alternative futures: centerhold (part 3): education as living
Dec 30, 2020 | men's group visioning: what was 2020 like from the view of 2060?
Dec 15, 2020 | alternative futures: centerhold (part 2)

Nov 2020

Nov 16, 2020 | alternative futures: the decree
Nov 13, 2020 | whiteness is about resistance to change
Nov 9, 2020 | self-mastery: erotic type - sexual
Nov 4, 2020 | things to remember on 4 nov 2020

Oct 2020

Oct 28, 2020 | book review: race talk and the conspiracy of silence
Oct 27, 2020 | book review: long way down
Oct 26, 2020 | preparing for a covid winter in a covid fall
Oct 19, 2020 | alternative futures: centerhold
Oct 17, 2020 | i think my use of coffee is ableist
Oct 7, 2020 | resisting overwhelm and the temptation to speed up
Oct 5, 2020 | book review: fumbling towards repair: a workbook for community accountability facilitators

Sep 2020

Sep 26, 2020 | book review: care work: dreaming disability justice
Sep 23, 2020 | patriarchy rewires the body
Sep 22, 2020 | happy fall equinox (aka "no new things" day)!
Sep 21, 2020 | fall course correction
Sep 15, 2020 | my abolitionist dreams
Sep 15, 2020 | why i type in all lowercase
Sep 9, 2020 | celebrate your victories!
Sep 8, 2020 | fishbowls on zoom

Aug 2020

Aug 19, 2020 | we don't hold people accountable; we create space for people to take accountability
Aug 17, 2020 | defining enough
Aug 12, 2020 | what does august taste like
Aug 11, 2020 | from districts to bioregions
Aug 2, 2020 | on the difference between emergence and spontaneity
Aug 2, 2020 | from self-mastery to self-unfoldment
Aug 1, 2020 | this is a hard moment

Jul 2020

Jul 30, 2020 | yes, we can play with cop gear... but can we play with ex-cops?
Jul 28, 2020 | noticing a difference between my fear and my anger
Jul 25, 2020 | book review: the inward journey
Jul 17, 2020 | what are the possibilities as our systems crumble and emerge?
Jul 17, 2020 | masks and whiteness
Jul 15, 2020 | on how to cry if you can't
Jul 14, 2020 | summer teachers
Jul 10, 2020 | planning before and inside of pandemic
Jul 7, 2020 | remapping my brain with territory names on zoom
Jul 6, 2020 | our bodies are not made for social interaction at this scale
Jul 6, 2020 | roundtable interview idea
Jul 6, 2020 | book review: are prisons obsolete

Jun 2020

Jun 29, 2020 | white supremacy culture = anxiety
Jun 25, 2020 | i want to steward a house or a retreat center
Jun 22, 2020 | book list for lanard
Jun 21, 2020 | protests are not a measure of your solidarity
Jun 16, 2020 | lovenote from a future beyond gender
Jun 9, 2020 | 4 weeks of elemental meditation
Jun 6, 2020 | from productivity to personal systems: an evolution of my coaching practice
Jun 6, 2020 | what will police do when their jobs are no more?
Jun 5, 2020 | flash fiction friday #1: "remember back in 2020 when black people..."
Jun 2, 2020 | use your gifts for the movement
Jun 2, 2020 | some thoughts for my friends during the week of an uprising
Jun 2, 2020 | sell the brownie, not the ingredients

May 2020

May 29, 2020 | on anti-blackness this week
May 27, 2020 | covid-19 sci-fi: they took their $1200 and left
May 23, 2020 | self-mastery: enneagram
May 17, 2020 | a few mid-may pandemic noticings
May 16, 2020 | covid-19 sci-fi: back to the land
May 10, 2020 | the long tail of covid-19
May 7, 2020 | covid grief journal
May 6, 2020 | 7 year cycles
May 4, 2020 | Covid, Public Health + City Planning? It's Really About Building a Different Urban Economy Centering a Right to the City
May 1, 2020 | individual vs collective responses to covid-19

Apr 2020

Apr 29, 2020 | in our newly remote world, what if we went smaller and more intimate?
Apr 29, 2020 | self-mastery: myers-briggs (infj-a: the advocate)
Apr 27, 2020 | tech insight from james vamboi: facetime vs zoom
Apr 26, 2020 | ancestor journal
Apr 20, 2020 | covid-19 sci-fi: remember when the stimulus checks hit?
Apr 16, 2020 | dreaming during pandemic
Apr 13, 2020 | covid-19 sci-fi: looking for old guides to quarantine
Apr 13, 2020 | i am turning 31!
Apr 11, 2020 | the psychic load of pandemic
Apr 7, 2020 | finding ray
Apr 4, 2020 | pandemic practices
Apr 4, 2020 | danielle coates-connor response to "thoughts on wrong- and right-relationship during a pandemic"
Apr 4, 2020 | andrea atkinson response to "thoughts on wrong- and right-relationship during a pandemic"
Apr 4, 2020 | covid is revealing things that have always been true: a mystic perspective
Apr 4, 2020 | in the days of covid-19 we need to get better at grief. and quick!
Apr 3, 2020 | thoughts on wrong- and right-relationship during a pandemic
Apr 1, 2020 | covid-19: balance is a dance

Mar 2020

Mar 30, 2020 | covid-19: not a spike of chaos, but waves...
Mar 23, 2020 | video dinners during the days of physical distancing (and social strengthening)
Mar 21, 2020 | covid-19 is global trauma
Mar 19, 2020 | guided meditation on thursday 19 march 2020: finding spring teachers
Mar 17, 2020 | deathnote #4: covid-19
Mar 16, 2020 | getting shit done during covid-19: pompod
Mar 16, 2020 | alternative futures: fall 2028 -- living after the days of covid-19
Mar 14, 2020 | can you feel me hugging you? OR care via time travel in the days of covid-19
Mar 13, 2020 | morning pages in the days of covid-19
Mar 11, 2020 | alternative futures: living after the days of covid-19
Mar 9, 2020 | did you know you can tell amazon to ship your packages plastic-free?
Mar 8, 2020 | what happens to spring when you don't really have winter?

Feb 2020

Feb 22, 2020 | winter reflection, spring visioning
Feb 22, 2020 | vision statement (2020 update)
Feb 22, 2020 | 2019 in review
Feb 19, 2020 | equity: why i only share job postings with a listed salary range
Feb 17, 2020 | 2020 queer men's full moon circles

Jan 2020

Jan 24, 2020 | it's a new year all the time
Jan 22, 2020 | solo date night
Jan 21, 2020 | cuddle theory breakthrough
Jan 12, 2020 | winter inspirations: learning from trees and hummingbirds

Dec 2019

Dec 24, 2019 | all the book reviews i should have written this year
Dec 18, 2019 | did you know "apocalypse" doesn't mean "the end of the world"?
Dec 17, 2019 | book review: the miracle of mindfulness
Dec 13, 2019 | blessing from a child who has committed suicide
Dec 3, 2019 | some accountability tips
Dec 2, 2019 | 2019/2020 winter practices

Nov 2019

Nov 21, 2019 | tonglen
Nov 19, 2019 | toxic masculinity: two current problematic narratives
Nov 18, 2019 | book review: post traumatic slave syndrome
Nov 13, 2019 | "how are you?", the feelings wheel, and the body
Nov 12, 2019 | yoga, asanas, and who benefits
Nov 7, 2019 | manspreading
Nov 6, 2019 | defining home
Nov 6, 2019 | defining meditation
Nov 5, 2019 | defining freedom

Oct 2019

Oct 30, 2019 | pro-tip: take all your apps off your home screen
Oct 29, 2019 | it's winter... we should act like it
Oct 26, 2019 | book highlights archive
Oct 9, 2019 | alternative futures: armor and elixir
Oct 8, 2019 | black sci-fi book club
Oct 8, 2019 | men cuddling is probably a backdoor into violence reduction
Oct 8, 2019 | facilitation resources
Oct 4, 2019 | happy "no new things" day

Sep 2019

Sep 20, 2019 | "don't get lost and don't get molested"
Sep 19, 2019 | what does it mean to be human?
Sep 12, 2019 | there is no such thing as "caught up"
Sep 9, 2019 | books for bj
Sep 9, 2019 | living seasonally: fall
Sep 8, 2019 | book review: how your story sets you free
Sep 8, 2019 | ibram x. kendi on racism, not racism, and antiracism
Sep 7, 2019 | personal definitions
Sep 7, 2019 | on the darkening days of media lab (a slant corporate sellout story)
Sep 7, 2019 | uri hasson and neural coupling (brain syncing)
Sep 7, 2019 | "i got hired and then doubted until i got fired"
Sep 7, 2019 | on being sensitive
Sep 6, 2019 | pay attention to tension, resonance, decisions

Aug 2019

Aug 16, 2019 | book review: my grandmother's hands
Aug 10, 2019 | am i dissociating or am i just far away?
Aug 8, 2019 | new book borrowing policy
Aug 7, 2019 | just cause you're on the bench doesn't mean your team isn't winning

Jul 2019

Jul 29, 2019 | thanks for that conversation years ago
Jul 26, 2019 | book review: homegoing
Jul 24, 2019 | on reading octavia e. butler
Jul 19, 2019 | things that make me cry
Jul 17, 2019 | baby they
Jul 16, 2019 | how do you stay so open?
Jul 13, 2019 | fundamental (universal?) truths
Jul 12, 2019 | remembering my eloquence

Jun 2019

Jun 23, 2019 | pathways out of asking 'what do you do?'
Jun 19, 2019 | commitment is not a rigidity that leads to breaking
Jun 17, 2019 | sci-fi generator (af28): Link - part 3
Jun 13, 2019 | reframe: from saying no to choosing myself
Jun 9, 2019 | on being - gregory orr
Jun 9, 2019 | june budget blogging

May 2019

May 21, 2019 | not celebrating my victories enough
May 20, 2019 | take what you need, leave the rest
May 16, 2019 | from 'how are you?' to 'what do you need right now?'
May 15, 2019 | sci-fi generator (af28): Link - part 2
May 14, 2019 | queer full moon circles for men/male-bodied folx
May 14, 2019 | sci-fi generator (af28): Link - part 1
May 13, 2019 | resisting fomo
May 12, 2019 | grief resources
May 8, 2019 | intergenerational liberation
May 5, 2019 | the learning zone model by tom senniger

Apr 2019

Apr 28, 2019 | processing my anger
Apr 27, 2019 | (r)evolutionary uncling
Apr 26, 2019 | just a little casual silencing
Apr 26, 2019 | frequently used resources
Apr 26, 2019 | a renga for alternative futures
Apr 25, 2019 | healing is painful, but it's not hurtful
Apr 24, 2019 | what are the stories beyond the story that racism reproduces?
Apr 23, 2019 | articles for choosing your first tarot deck
Apr 23, 2019 | book review: pleasure activism
Apr 22, 2019 | alternative futures: we can
Apr 18, 2019 | who are you letting answer these three important questions
Apr 17, 2019 | what we lose out on when we assume people are going to stay at our organization forever
Apr 17, 2019 | ga(y)me day
Apr 7, 2019 | alternative futures: holostone - part 1

Mar 2019

Mar 29, 2019 | is this bamboo toothbrush legit?
Mar 26, 2019 | email is out of control: part 1
Mar 22, 2019 | 2019 mantra, important quotes, and commitments
Mar 19, 2019 | non-linearity of time breakthrough
Mar 15, 2019 | 2019 annual reflection review: part 1, 2, 3, 4
Mar 14, 2019 | 2018 moon practice
Mar 13, 2019 | breadcrumbs
Mar 9, 2019 | current thoughts on having my own children: ambivalence
Mar 8, 2019 | money matters march
Mar 7, 2019 | self-mastery: astrological natal chart
Mar 6, 2019 | jp queer movie night
Mar 6, 2019 | book review: braiding sweetgrass
Mar 4, 2019 | builing habits together is more effective than doing it alone
Mar 2, 2019 | book review: barracoon: the story of the last "black cargo"
Mar 1, 2019 | keep calm and don't fake being calm

Feb 2019

Feb 28, 2019 | black history/futures: first day of school
Feb 27, 2019 | book, street, or both: two types of intelligence
Feb 26, 2019 | child-centered societies
Feb 23, 2019 | black history/futures: eight decades
Feb 21, 2019 | black history/futures: preparations
Feb 19, 2019 | friend zones update: how it's going
Feb 18, 2019 | black history/futures: edge rider: part 2
Feb 17, 2019 | black history/futures: tree huggers
Feb 15, 2019 | black history/futures: edge rider: part 1
Feb 12, 2019 | black history/futures: diving into the past
Feb 11, 2019 | deathnote #3: my black future
Feb 11, 2019 | book review: conflict is not abuse by sarah schulman
Feb 10, 2019 | black history/futures: families
Feb 7, 2019 | black history/futures: mudras
Feb 5, 2019 | black history/futures: learning the family tree
Feb 4, 2019 | black history/futures: finding your work
Feb 3, 2019 | black history/futures: dark matter
Feb 2, 2019 | black history/futures: learning to read the family tree
Feb 1, 2019 | black history/futures: the healing is on me

Jan 2019

Jan 31, 2019 | regeneration > sustainability > extraction
Jan 29, 2019 | self-mastery: strengthsfinder
Jan 28, 2019 | on globalization
Jan 14, 2019 | alternative futures: holomeetings
Jan 9, 2019 | book review: imago by octavia butler
Jan 4, 2019 | vision statement (2019 update)
Jan 3, 2019 | year in review: 2018
Jan 2, 2019 | emergent strategy group agreements

Dec 2018

Dec 30, 2018 | uncharted territory: personal systems/habits/routines in moments of change
Dec 26, 2018 | preparing for my 2019 annual retreat
Dec 17, 2018 | some thoughts on (d)evil(s)
Dec 15, 2018 | the tyranny of doodle
Dec 12, 2018 | my relationship with spontaneity and structure (it's complicated)
Dec 11, 2018 | the body wants to heal itself
Dec 3, 2018 | self-mastery: my love languages

Nov 2018

Nov 30, 2018 | winter, depression, and unnatural systems
Nov 28, 2018 | healing, integration, integrity
Nov 26, 2018 | convergence and resonance: we have to learn to do be different... now
Nov 20, 2018 | alternative futures: baby's gotta breathe
Nov 16, 2018 | the systems we are building now are just transition steps, not the answer
Nov 13, 2018 | dori midnight on capitalism, numbing, and endless scrolls of horror
Nov 11, 2018 | book review: of water and the spirit: ritual, magic, and initiation in the life of an african shaman
Nov 11, 2018 | book review: the power by naomi alderman
Nov 2, 2018 | three shared rituals in 7 days... what?!?!?!?

Oct 2018

Oct 30, 2018 | #notdeadnotlost
Oct 23, 2018 | zumix radio is looking for radio mentors
Oct 11, 2018 | learning from nature with laurie marshall about curiosity and leadership
Oct 1, 2018 | happy "no more meetings this year" day

Sep 2018

Sep 23, 2018 | book review: the will to change by bell hooks
Sep 22, 2018 | book review: adulthood rites by octavia butler
Sep 22, 2018 | trying out a new book review structure
Sep 21, 2018 | on being with eugene peterson (part 4): on prayer and the (dangerous) search for transcendence
Sep 20, 2018 | on being with eugene peterson (part 3): on words
Sep 19, 2018 | on being with eugene peterson (part 2): on poetry
Sep 17, 2018 | on being with eugene peterson (part 1): the prophets were poets!
Sep 16, 2018 | meditation is liberation... maybe?
Sep 11, 2018 | new question to live: how to be angry without being mean?
Sep 4, 2018 | current phone protocols to minimize addiction and maximize productivity

Aug 2018

Aug 27, 2018 | part 1: quandry with my own blackness
Aug 24, 2018 | 3 paths, one truth: change the current reality and the systemic reality at the same time
Aug 23, 2018 | the spontaneous couple confession
Aug 19, 2018 | day care center for immigrant and refugee children needs website
Aug 19, 2018 | expanding my personal definition of liberation
Aug 16, 2018 | the prophetic no
Aug 13, 2018 | the future of code isn't code
Aug 10, 2018 | the 60 to 1 rule

Jul 2018

Jul 30, 2018 | queering eldering

Jun 2018

Jun 3, 2018 | what if we planned for the last 7 days of our lives?... and also the 7 days after that?
Jun 2, 2018 | book reviews: you are not a gadget, harriet tubman: conductor on the underground railroad, killing and dying: stories, the dispossessed

May 2018

May 1, 2018 | freedom of information

Apr 2018

Apr 23, 2018 | why sustainability isn't good enough
Apr 19, 2018 | jamaal may on vs: part 3
Apr 18, 2018 | jamaal may on vs: part 2
Apr 17, 2018 | jamaal may on vs: part 1
Apr 15, 2018 | lessons from the justice collective: part 3
Apr 14, 2018 | universal basic income reframe: benefits for being
Apr 12, 2018 | lessons from the justice collective: part 2
Apr 11, 2018 | lessons from the justice collective
Apr 10, 2018 | alternative futures: library stretch
Apr 9, 2018 | eroc on spanking via the poet and the professor
Apr 8, 2018 | on the difference between intimacy and sexuality
Apr 6, 2018 | #deletefacebook explained
Apr 5, 2018 | alternative futures: #deletefacebook
Apr 4, 2018 | people are having totally different conversations when it comes to narratives about real estate and gentrification
Apr 3, 2018 | ruth stone running like hell as poetry chases her home
Apr 2, 2018 | sneaking suspicion: more housing actually won't solve housing crises in financially overdeveloped places
Apr 1, 2018 | leopold kohr, size cycles, and the question of scale: maybe the country is just too damn big

Mar 2018

Mar 31, 2018 | self-mastery: emotional intelligence
Mar 30, 2018 | learning about won buddhism at the won dharma
Mar 29, 2018 | lewis mehl-madrona: talking circles
Mar 28, 2018 | reflections on my two morning meditation sessions at the won dharma center
Mar 27, 2018 | the invitation to brave space
Mar 26, 2018 | notes on the four agreements
Mar 24, 2018 | book reviews: chronicle of a death foretold and betty-anne's helpful household hints, volume 2
Mar 23, 2018 | alternative futures: tug (part 2)
Mar 22, 2018 | book reviews: binti and patternmaster
Mar 21, 2018 | rays of light experiment reflections(draft)
Mar 19, 2018 | alternative futures: tug
Mar 18, 2018 | flight over denver for the first time
Mar 17, 2018 | jaron lanier (via the ezra klein show) on backlash
Mar 14, 2018 | yuval: harari what sets humans apart is our ability to create stories that can lead to massive cooperation
Mar 10, 2018 | on blackness
Mar 6, 2018 | book reviews: when my brother was an aztec and the souls of black folk
Mar 6, 2018 | black panther
Mar 3, 2018 | captchas have gone too far
Mar 2, 2018 | changing up the words to my metta
Mar 1, 2018 | has nothing changed since du bois?

Feb 2018

Feb 28, 2018 | more, less brief reflections from the on being gathering (part 3)
Feb 26, 2018 | more, less brief reflections from the on being gathering (part 2)
Feb 23, 2018 | alternative futures: stuck
Feb 22, 2018 | alternative futures: the end of usury
Feb 21, 2018 | more, less brief reflections from the on being gathering
Feb 20, 2018 | brief reflections from the on being gathering
Feb 10, 2018 | re-examining my relationship with the internet
Feb 9, 2018 | book reviews: kindred and the future
Feb 6, 2018 | alternative futures: glitch (part 2)
Feb 5, 2018 | dcc: simple explanation of the feminine and the masculine
Feb 2, 2018 | alternative futures: glitch
Feb 1, 2018 | 2018 annual reflection review: part 5

Jan 2018

Jan 31, 2018 | 2018 annual reflection review: part 4
Jan 30, 2018 | 2018 annual reflection review: part 3
Jan 29, 2018 | alternative futures: the day everything disappeared
Jan 24, 2018 | 2018 annual reflection review: part 2
Jan 23, 2018 | 2018 annual reflection review: part 1
Jan 22, 2018 | rays of light: 2018 experiment
Jan 21, 2018 | imagining the world i want for one minute a day
Jan 20, 2018 | jaron lanier: on how the internet could have monetized (and evolved) differently
Jan 19, 2018 | why i don't check email before noon
Jan 18, 2018 | vision statement (2018 update)
Jan 17, 2018 | alternative futures: it gets better
Jan 16, 2018 | solnit: history is more like the weather than checkers
Jan 13, 2018 | solnit: why do we love certainty more than hope?
Jan 12, 2018 | daniel schmachtenberger on phase shifting humanity
Jan 11, 2018 | commitments for 2018
Jan 10, 2018 | commitment: facilitate 100 meetings in 2018
Jan 9, 2018 | adding some complexity to the friend zones
Jan 8, 2018 | facebook is really stressing me out these days
Jan 7, 2018 | "be a conduit" (and other phrases/mantras for 2018)
Jan 6, 2018 | solnit on openings: we don't always win, but we also don't always lose
Jan 5, 2018 | gumbs & solnit: time travel and nonlinearity
Jan 4, 2018 | solnit: people live and die by stories
Jan 3, 2018 | solnit: there's no such thing as a disaster
Jan 1, 2018 | what if poc meant people of culture?

Dec 2017

Dec 30, 2017 | what i read: 2017
Dec 29, 2017 | 2017 book list: best of and most impactful
Dec 28, 2017 | why conflict avoidance might be the downfall of western society
Dec 27, 2017 | the three phases of planning emergency management: moving towards complexity
Dec 26, 2017 | designing for imperfection in movement work
Dec 25, 2017 | dave snowden: managing in the present by designing parallel safe-to-fail experiments
Dec 24, 2017 | a happy ending on a corporate sellout story: paws for trello
Dec 23, 2017 | oleg konovalov: organizational culture as catalyst or inhibitor
Dec 22, 2017 | storytelling tips from the moth
Dec 21, 2017 | "we wish you well in your transformation, far away"
Dec 20, 2017 | on the problems of masculinity: how lack of emotional awareness is connected to impoverished decision making
Dec 19, 2017 | alternative futures: the web
Dec 17, 2017 | sonja blignaut on company culture and stories
Dec 16, 2017 | healing: the difference between wounds and scars
Dec 15, 2017 | “the world had to be disenchanted in order for it to be modern”
Dec 14, 2017 | flash fiction: my son is a vampire
Dec 13, 2017 | on the problems of masculinity: vulnerability and intimacy are off limits to typically masculine men
Dec 12, 2017 | learning more about my healer self
Dec 8, 2017 | parts of my friend zone thinking that didn't make it into my medium post
Dec 7, 2017 | when data is a substitute for relationship
Dec 3, 2017 | ellen langer on mindlessness, mindfulness, and business
Dec 2, 2017 | why having a diverse friend ecosystem matters

Nov 2017

Nov 30, 2017 | oleg konovalov: organizations, like organisms, have to focus energy on getting the right resources (not just any resources)
Nov 29, 2017 | learning about friends (medium post draft - part 2)
Nov 28, 2017 | learning about friends (medium post draft - part 1)
Nov 27, 2017 | "it’s great that yoga has spread here, but i fear you have all missed the point"
Nov 26, 2017 | life is fractal: i want to work with people who understand that
Nov 25, 2017 | daniel kahneman: experiencing self vs remembering self
Nov 24, 2017 | practicing emergent strategy: change is constant. be like water.
Nov 23, 2017 | the lakota people's definition of sustainability
Nov 22, 2017 | daniel kahneman: overconfidence is about lack of imagination
Nov 21, 2017 | collaborative sci-fi generator experiment: a journey to heal my flesh and blood
Nov 21, 2017 | academia is wrong because it is in wrong relationship with the resources around it
Nov 20, 2017 | hendrix: anxiety is like anti-currency
Nov 20, 2017 | trying on "meaningless slaughter remembrance week" and "meevenings"
Nov 19, 2017 | the left vs the right: fighting for the past/present vs the future
Nov 18, 2017 | failure: one of my favorite teachers
Nov 16, 2017 | "trust is a brittle thing that needs to be built, over time, mostly by actions"
Nov 15, 2017 | kuumba lynx on transformative spaces
Nov 14, 2017 | tk coleman: the distinction between political and social philosophy
Nov 12, 2017 | liberation and freedom are a lot of work
Nov 10, 2017 | alternative futures: the countdown clock
Nov 9, 2017 | tk coleman and thomas sowell on oppression and intent versus outcome
Nov 7, 2017 | junot díaz: on generative definitions of community and radical hope
Nov 6, 2017 | junot díaz: on hyperconsumption and the invisibility and under-prioritization of inner work in american culture
Nov 5, 2017 | an alternative definition to the word emergency
Nov 3, 2017 | atul gawande: the magic of human limits and limitlessness
Nov 2, 2017 | another reason i write: it "radically changes us one by one"
Nov 1, 2017 | junot díaz: what links climate change denial and toxic masculinity? fear of vulnerability

Oct 2017

Oct 31, 2017 | alternative futures: what to do with a ubi (part 10)
Oct 30, 2017 | alternative futures: what to do with a ubi (part 9)
Oct 29, 2017 | alternative futures: what to do with a ubi (part 8)
Oct 28, 2017 | alternative futures: what to do with a ubi (part 7)
Oct 27, 2017 | alternative futures: what to do with a ubi (part 6)
Oct 26, 2017 | alternative futures: what to do with a ubi (part 5)
Oct 25, 2017 | more inspiration for coaching system upgrade
Oct 24, 2017 | alternative futures: what to do with a ubi (part 4)
Oct 23, 2017 | alternative futures: what to do with a ubi (part 3)
Oct 22, 2017 | alternative futures: what to do with a ubi (part 2)
Oct 20, 2017 | alternative futures: i can see beneath the present
Oct 19, 2017 | self-determination isn't optional; it's necessary
Oct 18, 2017 | emergent strategy quote collection: 5
Oct 17, 2017 | the scam of credit cards
Oct 16, 2017 | on paying bills at a certain time of the month
Oct 13, 2017 | emergent strategy quote collection: 4
Oct 13, 2017 | dropping in versus coming up
Oct 12, 2017 | emergent strategy quote collection: 3
Oct 12, 2017 | on expertise, complexity, complicatedness, and what evolutionary leadership is for
Oct 6, 2017 | on the evening routine
Oct 4, 2017 | josé olivarez on vs: three notes
Oct 3, 2017 | up there everywhere and pentagram: models for the firm i want to start
Oct 2, 2017 | emergent strategy quote collection: introduction (2)
Oct 1, 2017 | emergent strategy quote collection: introduction (1)
Oct 1, 2017 | vs: stop playing devil's advocate

Sep 2017

Sep 30, 2017 | fatimah asghar on vs: "my people"
Sep 29, 2017 | an observation: weddings aren't for the people getting married; they're for the families
Sep 28, 2017 | eve ewing on vs: the past is not a predictor of the future
Sep 27, 2017 | eating seasonally
Sep 26, 2017 | immanuel kant's rules for a good dinner party
Sep 25, 2017 | bateson: on love and difference
Sep 24, 2017 | bateson: vision of heaven by kipling is my vision of liberation
Sep 22, 2017 | bateson: nucleated cells & narratives of competition versus cooperation
Sep 20, 2017 | the benefits of no meeting day
Sep 19, 2017 | learning to let go of either/or thinking
Sep 18, 2017 | my developing theory of time
Sep 17, 2017 | vs with eve ewing: community is mutual accountability
Sep 16, 2017 | matthieu ricard: transform yourself to better serve others
Sep 15, 2017 | ways i spread myself through my community
Sep 14, 2017 | alternative futures: what to do with a ubi
Sep 12, 2017 | conversation rundown with m.b.
Sep 11, 2017 | on the practice of confirming meetings
Sep 10, 2017 | matthieu ricard: happiness is compatible with sadness
Sep 9, 2017 | matthieu ricard: the false dichotomy between spirituality and discovery
Sep 9, 2017 | what is the relationship between me being well and the world being crazy?
Sep 8, 2017 | on what people pay me for when i'm coaching
Sep 7, 2017 | lyndsey stonebridge: the proper response to a political culture of lying
Sep 6, 2017 | lyndsey stonebridge: arendt vs. orwell on totalitarianism
Sep 5, 2017 | daca rescinded
Sep 4, 2017 | stonebridge on arendt on st. augustine's notions of love
Sep 3, 2017 | futurist writing and academic research are both forms of exploration
Sep 2, 2017 | how to capture the story of one's work
Sep 1, 2017 | brief update on intuition and money trainings

Aug 2017

Aug 31, 2017 | metcalfe's law, its limitations, and the next wave of facebook exodus
Aug 30, 2017 | collective action is easier without diversity
Aug 29, 2017 | the difference in organizing on the (political) right and left
Aug 28, 2017 | inspiration for coaching system upgrade
Aug 16, 2017 | martin sheen on true freedom and community
Aug 15, 2017 | exploring my dna: part 1
Aug 14, 2017 | learning how to change my relationship to money
Aug 13, 2017 | staying connected in times of disconnection
Aug 12, 2017 | training my intuition & some early lessons
Aug 11, 2017 | i'm over organizations and institutions
Aug 10, 2017 | two quick thoughts on healing
Aug 9, 2017 | interactive book club reading response: week 5
Aug 8, 2017 | matthieu ricard: being happy in isolation simply doesn't make sense
Aug 7, 2017 | offloading and uploading anxiety
Aug 6, 2017 | the Trinity and the bodymindspirit
Aug 6, 2017 | everyone needs a project over which they have agency
Aug 5, 2017 | trees as metaphor for humans
Aug 4, 2017 | trees as metaphor for organization communications
Aug 3, 2017 | the safe space spontaneous couple confession
Aug 2, 2017 | interactive book club reading response: week 4
Aug 1, 2017 | want to be in a romantic relationship with me? please read this book and sign this contract

Jul 2017

Jul 31, 2017 | intro to complexity theory
Jul 30, 2017 | infantilization, risk (in)tolerance, the western electorate, and mit
Jul 29, 2017 | mindstorms: the qwerty phenomenon
Jul 29, 2017 | writing out loud and ariadne's thread
Jul 28, 2017 | mindstorms: on debugging as it relates to building habits
Jul 27, 2017 | on what to do with tomato suckers (part 2 of hierarchy and linearity: overblown truths)
Jul 26, 2017 | evolutionary leadership — hierarchy and linearity: overblown truths
Jul 25, 2017 | why i keep a public journal / think out loud
Jul 24, 2017 | evolutionary leadership: embracing your outer work to do your inner work
Jul 23, 2017 | sometimes it's not yet time to write something
Jul 21, 2017 | bdsm and what it's teaching me about power
Jul 20, 2017 | #peopleonphonesinpublicorprivate: getting caught
Jul 19, 2017 | being in relationship with things both alive and not
Jul 18, 2017 | why i take notes in a paper notebook
Jul 17, 2017 | lyndsey stonebridge on hannah arendt: why bureaucracy won't work
Jul 16, 2017 | the three ways people often screw up my name
Jul 15, 2017 | pattern: when your office isn't a good place to work
Jul 14, 2017 | mentoring: the best way to learn. also the best to know your place in a community and feel like you belong
Jul 13, 2017 | ezra glenn: on people and the weight of the relationship between them
Jul 12, 2017 | overly complex, complicated writing: why do we write not like we speak?
Jul 11, 2017 | on becoming a more coherent person
Jul 10, 2017 | mentees becoming peers
Jul 9, 2017 | practicing / playing / embodying the person you want to be
Jul 8, 2017 | on making informed career decisions
Jul 7, 2017 | alternative futures: scrambled eye
Jul 6, 2017 | alternative futures: Wash and Reset
Jul 5, 2017 | alternative futures: Listening
Jul 4, 2017 | alternative futures: strength from ancestors
Jul 3, 2017 | alternative futures: cherry tomato bodymemory
Jul 2, 2017 | alternative futures: ancestral memory is stored in the body
Jul 1, 2017 | alternative futures: photo teleportation

Jun 2017

Jun 30, 2017 | lyndsey stonebridge: evil is the inability to hear another voice
Jun 29, 2017 | personal practice: doors open, doors closed
Jun 28, 2017 | how i set up my calendly experiment
Jun 27, 2017 | evolutionary leadership: the journey to and from cortes island
Jun 25, 2017 | evolutionary leadership: the surprising impact of the structure of the workshop
Jun 24, 2017 | evolutionary leadership: integrate and include
Jun 23, 2017 | alternative futures: slide
Jun 20, 2017 | evolutionary leadership: two week reflection
Jun 18, 2017 | listening to the city: a meditation practice
Jun 17, 2017 | medium post #1: how i started a coaching practice
Jun 16, 2017 | personal practice: my shadow calendar - what am i learning?
Jun 15, 2017 | personal practice: my shadow calendar
Jun 14, 2017 | compassionate leaders have boundaries
Jun 13, 2017 | alternative futures: my first migration – decade two (part 2)
Jun 12, 2017 | getting outside of my conference bubble
Jun 11, 2017 | what happens when you drop your credit card terminal
Jun 9, 2017 | migration: living somewhere else for a month each year
Jun 2, 2017 | capitalism is theft
Jun 2, 2017 | alternative futures: my first migration – decade two

May 2017

May 31, 2017 | listening to the city: sound is physical
May 30, 2017 | listening to the city: trading soundwalks to build empathy
May 27, 2017 | listening to the city: vibrating together
May 26, 2017 | margins of safety aren't all created equal
May 25, 2017 | it's not a small world
May 23, 2017 | on relationships and love: the rule of 200
May 22, 2017 | diminishing marginal utility of too much network growth
May 21, 2017 | limits on utility of growing a network
May 20, 2017 | driving for change: on being the voice in someone's head
May 19, 2017 | isaac morehouse: what will save higher ed
May 18, 2017 | isaac morehouse: what's driving change in education these days
May 16, 2017 | last night in oakland
May 15, 2017 | our current education system sets us up for imposter syndrome
May 13, 2017 | getting clearer on futurist writing
May 12, 2017 | trauma and healing are a big deal right now
May 10, 2017 | some thoughts/ideas/insights on futurist writing to date
May 7, 2017 | expansion from a theory developed in brazil: balancing people, planet, and goods
May 6, 2017 | personal storytelling work i want to do
May 5, 2017 | random train encounters: "have a good night"
May 4, 2017 | white supremacy in action: skipping the line at the consulate
May 3, 2017 | bessel van der kolk: heart stress hormones give us the energy to move forward
May 2, 2017 | bessel van der kolk: how mindfulness helps us deal with trauma
May 1, 2017 | two takeaway theories from brazil

Apr 2017

Apr 29, 2017 | a few more thoughts from brazil
Apr 26, 2017 | some thoughts about brazil so far: a reflection
Apr 25, 2017 | bessel van der kolk: on victims and collective memory
Apr 25, 2017 | bessel van der kolk: on emdr and powerful eyes
Apr 22, 2017 | bessel van der kolk: on individual and collective trauma
Apr 21, 2017 | on the problem of real estate development by wealthy people
Apr 20, 2017 | bessel van der kolk: on the post-alcoholism and disembodiment of the west
Apr 19, 2017 | my news media consumption practices in the trump era
Apr 18, 2017 | bessel van der kolk: the impacts of trauma lodging in the body
Apr 17, 2017 | newsletter reflection #1: it's working!
Apr 16, 2017 | systems entrepreneurship versus entrepreneurship
Apr 15, 2017 | meeting new people lets us get to reinvent ourselves
Apr 14, 2017 | basic organization meeting framework (or why are nonprofits so poorly managed?)
Apr 13, 2017 | random train encounters: downtown to the bronx
Apr 12, 2017 | how do i find such a range of things to write about?
Apr 10, 2017 | can you take a routine and needs too far?
Apr 9, 2017 | on the professionalization of spirituality (part 2): what's next
Apr 8, 2017 | on the possibility of digital farming
Apr 7, 2017 | on the professionalization of spirituality (part 1): why is yoga training so expensive?
Apr 6, 2017 | new highlight methods from reading all about love
Apr 5, 2017 | whiteness and property ownership: the right to exclude
Apr 4, 2017 | why i’m really into baking sourdough right now
Apr 3, 2017 | anne braden on developing her justice work
Apr 2, 2017 | the search for consistency and coherence

Mar 2017

Mar 27, 2017 | alternative futures: the carriers - part 2 (DRAFT)
Mar 26, 2017 | theory: individual change is necessary to create systemic change
Mar 25, 2017 | alternative futures: the carriers - part 1 (DRAFT)
Mar 24, 2017 | synchroncity and déjà vu
Mar 23, 2017 | multiculturalism and the idea that all life is interaction
Mar 22, 2017 | anil dash on the evolution of false markets via the internet
Mar 21, 2017 | pádraig ó tuama and carlo rovelli on here
Mar 20, 2017 | carlo rovelli: things versus happenings
Mar 19, 2017 | two more random train encounters
Mar 18, 2017 | pádraig ó tuama on understanding: sectarianism is belonging gone bad (part 4)
Mar 17, 2017 | alternative futures: the culture core - part 2 (DRAFT)
Mar 16, 2017 | pádraig ó tuama on understanding: the interrelationship between private and public life (part 3)
Mar 15, 2017 | pádraig ó tuama on understanding: understanding doesn't mean agreeing (part 2)
Mar 14, 2017 | pádraig ó tuama on understanding: "most of the time" (part 1)
Mar 13, 2017 | marilyn nelson on magic, alliances, and God
Mar 12, 2017 | background apps, your brain, and personal systems
Mar 11, 2017 | alternative futures: the bar - part 1 (DRAFT)
Mar 10, 2017 | on the false dichotomy between the real world and cyberspace
Mar 9, 2017 | grammar is supremacy
Mar 8, 2017 | why is boston a good place to start things, but not to grow them
Mar 7, 2017 | anil dash on choosing love
Mar 7, 2017 | right-sizing social media
Mar 5, 2017 | reflections on my first national day of unplugging
Mar 3, 2017 | maya angelou on the city soul and the country soul
Mar 1, 2017 | the repulsive reality of expensive spirituality

Feb 2017

Feb 28, 2017 | random train encounter: m
Feb 27, 2017 | on college drinking culture: alcoholism, toxic masculinity, sexual repression, homoeroticism, numbing, and more!
Feb 26, 2017 | negative emotions are poor drivers of systemic change
Feb 25, 2017 | james martin on falling in love while being in a religious order
Feb 24, 2017 | on escaping yourself: why adultery and "finding yourself" by traveling don't work
Feb 23, 2017 | alain de botton on loving our lovers more like children
Feb 22, 2017 | james martin on being holy
Feb 21, 2017 | james martin on Jesus and the commercialization of christmas
Feb 20, 2017 | on the hypocrisy of white evangelical christian voters regarding abortion
Feb 19, 2017 | why having empathy for trump voters matters (i think)
Feb 18, 2017 | why i'm worried about impeaching donald trump
Feb 16, 2017 | alternative futures project update
Feb 15, 2017 | the brain, feelings, oppression, and humanity
Feb 14, 2017 | prediction time: why facebook and twitter are going to die
Feb 13, 2017 | isabel wilkerson and 12 generations
Feb 12, 2017 | brief reflection on my first tech sabbath
Feb 11, 2017 | krista tippett on reknitting the fabric of common life
Feb 10, 2017 | krista tippett on listening generously
Feb 9, 2017 | turns out politics and economics are subjective just like religion and art
Feb 8, 2017 | debunking a myth: thinking during meditation is bad
Feb 7, 2017 | media rules for living through the trump administration (and beyond)
Feb 6, 2017 | alternative futures: the responders - part 3 (DRAFT)
Feb 5, 2017 | "If there won't be dancing at the revolution, I'm not coming."
Feb 4, 2017 | taking our imagination back (or "why am i so into imagination right now?")
Feb 3, 2017 | alternative futures: the responders - part 2 (DRAFT)
Feb 2, 2017 | alternative futures: the responders - part 1 (DRAFT)
Feb 1, 2017 | have an ambiguous work situation? be proactive!

Jan 2017

Jan 31, 2017 | another corporate sellout ends in death: show about race
Jan 30, 2017 | alternative futures: the culture core - part 1 (DRAFT)
Jan 29, 2017 | day 9: is this what the early days of nazi germany felt like?
Jan 28, 2017 | the danger of the temporarily embarrassed millionaires ideology
Jan 27, 2017 | tech industry woes part 5: the dangers of tech without restraint and also why we all need a little tech education
Jan 26, 2017 | alternative futures: the village - part 1 (DRAFT)
Jan 25, 2017 | tech industry woes part 4: the tech industry, which isn't real, will consume the whole world if we let it
Jan 24, 2017 | thoughts on the 2017 women's march
Jan 23, 2017 | tech industry woes part 3: the false modesty of tech is absurd
Jan 22, 2017 | tech industry woes part 2: news and social media are playing a dangerous game
Jan 21, 2017 | alternative futures: the clock - part 1 (DRAFT)
Jan 20, 2017 | tech industry woes part 1: ethics, anti-history, and power
Jan 19, 2017 | on exposing the wounded underbelly of oppressors
Jan 18, 2017 | daryl davis guts kkk chapters
Jan 17, 2017 | maybe it's a good thing for grocery stores to run out of things (occasionally)
Jan 16, 2017 | my favorite reframing strategy: expand the frame
Jan 15, 2017 | jace clayton on artists and media metabolism
Jan 14, 2017 | on income and being like water
Jan 13, 2017 | lukes' dimensions of power
Jan 12, 2017 | less of that, more of this
Jan 11, 2017 | on imagination, death, apocalypse, and facilitating society
Jan 10, 2017 | how to make professional development happen (or a quick word on systems change)
Jan 9, 2017 | challenging the two-parent heteropatriarchal household
Jan 8, 2017 | two thoughts on oppression spurred by show about race: changing the calculus on oppression and white feelings and reality
Jan 7, 2017 | reflection on my 2017 personal retreat
Jan 6, 2017 | what’s the proper scale for an economy?: how a small babysitting co-op created a model for local economies
Jan 5, 2017 | my complicated relationship with my home state & family
Jan 4, 2017 | why anger is so bad and how mindfulness could be a solution
Jan 3, 2017 | disordered loves in america
Jan 2, 2017 | i really hate corporate sellouts (simple, this time)
Jan 2, 2017 | vision statement
Jan 1, 2017 | on making your art, doing the stuff that only you can do, freedom, and being fully human
Jan 1, 2017 | making progress, slowly but surely

Dec 2016

Dec 30, 2016 | on moving from objects and people that have served their purpose in your life
Dec 29, 2016 | final thoughts from seneca: figure out what you need and shape your life based on that
Dec 28, 2016 | thoughts from seneca on essentials and luxuries
Dec 27, 2016 | living virtuously is possible for everyone, but takes practice
Dec 27, 2016 | yet another problem of academia…
Dec 26, 2016 | what is the point of expensive coffins?
Dec 26, 2016 | on escaping the fear of death, new leases on life, and distinguishing between the good and bad things in this world
Dec 26, 2016 | on people who don’t practice what they preach
Dec 25, 2016 | yoga, meditation, the west, and rowing a boat tied to a dock
Dec 24, 2016 | book notes: the velvet rage: overcoming the pain of growing up gay in a straight man’s world
Dec 24, 2016 | seneca and alan watts on dying and living
Dec 23, 2016 | my personal retreat
Dec 23, 2016 | my personal retreat (long version)
Dec 22, 2016 | on friends and death
Dec 21, 2016 | my (first) deathnote (deathnote 2)
Dec 20, 2016 | the distance between what we learn in school and what we do on the job is SO far that it’s laughable (and other jabs at the academy)
Dec 19, 2016 | “you always take yourself along with you when you go abroad...”
Dec 18, 2016 | isn't it the height of folly to learn inessential things when time's so desperately short?
Dec 17, 2016 | one of the people i respect the most about the internet is going dark as soon as possible
Dec 16, 2016 | seneca’s rejection of useless work
Dec 15, 2016 | reverse scavenger hunts
Dec 14, 2016 | put your house in order and discover what you really want to do
Dec 13, 2016 | why overwork is a flawed strategy
Dec 12, 2016 | the story of the davy lamp and how some safety precautions make systems more dangerous/fragile
Dec 11, 2016 | valuing people for what is internal not external
Dec 10, 2016 | how silencing oppression and silencing the silencing of oppression are different
Dec 9, 2016 | why is it that impactful people seem to have bad relationship outcomes over time with the people closest to them?
Dec 8, 2016 | the benefits of staying in place/focus
Dec 7, 2016 | i’ve changed my mind about reading fiction
Dec 6, 2016 | on shaping your life according to nature and not people’s opinions
Dec 5, 2016 | why i’ll start a personal email newsletter
Dec 4, 2016 | why getting the easy stuff "out of the way" doesn't work
Dec 3, 2016 | is retirement a bad idea?
Dec 2, 2016 | the problems of layered systems that are out of pace
Dec 1, 2016 | on being too busy to sleep and exercise

Nov 2016

Nov 30, 2016 | on being too busy to sleep and exercise
Nov 29, 2016 | church, spirituality, and whatnot
Nov 28, 2016 | another reason 9to5 doesn't work
Nov 27, 2016 | why hanging out with close friends is life giving and a necessity (aka the benefits of hanging with close friends)
Nov 25, 2016 | how to overcome the barriers of getting into flow
Nov 23, 2016 | tips for balancing things urgent for someone else but not for you
Nov 23, 2016 | on being de-centered, listening, and who needs to be doing what
Nov 21, 2016 | wands out...
Nov 20, 2016 | some types of oppression make it hard to be your best self
Nov 19, 2016 | why the safety pin backlash makes me sad
Nov 18, 2016 | how big is this thing anyways?
Nov 17, 2016 | why fiction matters (even though i don’t read it)
Nov 16, 2016 | what can we ask right now instead of how are you?
Nov 15, 2016 | building healthy networks
Nov 14, 2016 | no, prayer is not the answer
Nov 13, 2016 | mourning
Nov 12, 2016 | growth is betrayal: a play in five acts.
Nov 11, 2016 | walls
Nov 10, 2016 | fight or flight
Nov 9, 2016 | 9 november 2016
Nov 9, 2016 | coupling off over time: good or bad? necessary or not?
Nov 8, 2016 | the paradoxical role of failure in self-driven change
Nov 8, 2016 | relationship capacity: friends, family, and the transition as we couple off
Nov 6, 2016 | hope: radical, daring, dangerous
Nov 5, 2016 | on the value of a working hypothesis
Nov 4, 2016 | on saying no: update part 2
Nov 3, 2016 | on saying no and learning how to have alone time
Nov 2, 2016 | the costs of "multi-tasking": why task-switching is expensive
Nov 1, 2016 | meditation is like muddy water settling
Nov 1, 2016 | the diversity/bandwidth tradeoff

Oct 2016

Oct 30, 2016 | the four characteristics of the best teams
Oct 29, 2016 | cognitive diversity, actual diversity, and the benefits of both
Oct 28, 2016 | why i write
Oct 27, 2016 | spirituality: practice over belief
Oct 26, 2016 | measure output, not time: full-time versus full-focus
Oct 21, 2016 | on change, transformation, and second chances
Oct 20, 2016 | art & architecture of the bpl reveals similarities between the past and present
Oct 19, 2016 | backseat facilitators are sometimes my favorite people
Oct 18, 2016 | problem finding, not just problem solving
Oct 17, 2016 | some of the best things about religions aren't religious
Oct 16, 2016 | america: a nation founded on genocide and trauma that is afraid to acknowledge death and grief
Oct 15, 2016 | open question on internalized oppression
Oct 14, 2016 | managing your todo list: make lists by context, the weekly review, and the annual purge
Oct 13, 2016 | the paradox of church and state in the u.k. versus the u.s.
Oct 12, 2016 | pomodoro brilliance: part 2 (maximum value)
Oct 11, 2016 | pomodoro brilliance: part 1 (why it works)
Oct 9, 2016 | coming soon: the burnout vs hate your job questionnaire
Oct 8, 2016 | religion gives people structure to do things they should do, but wouldn’t otherwise get around to
Oct 8, 2016 | why i don't read fiction
Oct 5, 2016 | (bad) trend: makers being promoted to managers
Oct 4, 2016 | the things i write about: take three
Oct 3, 2016 | the things i write about: take two
Oct 3, 2016 | the things i write about: take one
Oct 2, 2016 | people aren’t cogs: we need to stop designing systems like they are
Oct 1, 2016 | on companies that plan on employee burnout

Sep 2016

Sep 30, 2016 | now that we have the internet, schools need to evolve or get out the way
Sep 29, 2016 | why i don't drink coffee in the afternoon
Sep 28, 2016 | the view from the edge is clearer
Sep 27, 2016 | how i plan for spontaneity
Sep 26, 2016 | ramble about networks, power, and systems change
Sep 25, 2016 | the overton window, the task of imagination, and implications for activists
Sep 24, 2016 | does capitalism result in the espousal of liberal values in the long term?
Sep 22, 2016 | the globally wealthy can consume less by substituting meaning for consumption
Sep 22, 2016 | in a post-work society, roles in community will be much more important
Sep 22, 2016 | lessons from the five stages of relationship
Sep 21, 2016 | turns out, you can't be good friends with everyone (aka the hardest lesson i've learned this year)
Sep 20, 2016 | academia is a crock: part 2
Sep 18, 2016 | can love be violent? can love be angry?
Sep 17, 2016 | on matching skills, needs, and passions
Sep 16, 2016 | standing on the shoulders of the digital nomad innovators
Sep 15, 2016 | my approach to the quantified-self is revealing who/what influences me
Sep 14, 2016 | most stress comes from not finishing what you've started
Sep 13, 2016 | the power of airplane mode
Sep 12, 2016 | theory on being a good manager in today’s world
Sep 11, 2016 | the afternoon slump is normal: work with it; not around it
Sep 10, 2016 | on taste, the gap, creation, and curation
Sep 9, 2016 | personal practice: imagining our futures
Sep 8, 2016 | everything interesting is 90% boring
Sep 7, 2016 | on having fully functional systems (part 2): use the right tool for the right purpose or perish
Sep 6, 2016 | creating is a mixture of hard work and inspiration
Sep 5, 2016 | balancing your personal system week to week
Sep 4, 2016 | self-driven change is hard: be forgiving of yourself
Sep 4, 2016 | building your personal system, brick by brick
Sep 3, 2016 | 3 self-care techniques
Sep 3, 2016 | how my masters thesis changed my life
Sep 3, 2016 | productivity tip: reward yourself when you accomplish a goal
Sep 3, 2016 | habit breaking tips: replacing one habit for another and have accountability
Sep 3, 2016 | feeling productive actually makes you more productive (no joke)
Sep 2, 2016 | out in the world is better than in your head
Sep 1, 2016 | constrained creativity process update: post 101
Sep 1, 2016 | why having a fully functioning (technology) system is critical to stress-free productivity

Aug 2016

Aug 31, 2016 | how much work should i be doing?
Aug 30, 2016 | never make the same mistake twice
Aug 30, 2016 | on insecurity, change, our inability to know that who we are changes, and what all that means for work
Aug 28, 2016 | side effects of doing one thing per night
Aug 27, 2016 | the irony of ubiquitous communication and listening
Aug 26, 2016 | on doing one “thing” per night
Aug 24, 2016 | the more that’s on your plate, the more brittle your time is
Aug 23, 2016 | productivity tip: box yourself into back to back meetings
Aug 22, 2016 | can we evolve altruism?
Aug 21, 2016 | why running your life like a startup will help you get where you want to go faster
Aug 20, 2016 | the gift of a good collaborator
Aug 19, 2016 | why i'm uncomfortable with altruism
Aug 18, 2016 | how to make the most of the startup that is your life
Aug 17, 2016 | on the difference between projects and tasks
Aug 16, 2016 | designing "at" people is destined to fail
Aug 14, 2016 | personal practice: being mentored and mentoring
Aug 13, 2016 | on specialization, expertise, and needing each other
Aug 12, 2016 | stressing out (plants) and strength
Aug 11, 2016 | on the importance of personal branding
Aug 10, 2016 | overwork undermines love and is collapsing our soceity
Aug 9, 2016 | turns out academia is a crock
Aug 8, 2016 | on getting married in america
Aug 7, 2016 | previous relationship partners are educators about ourselves
Aug 6, 2016 | oh SNaP: skills, needs, and passions
Aug 5, 2016 | "marriage is not a particularly kind thing to do to someone you really care about."
Aug 4, 2016 | on jobs, automation, and the future of work (part 4)
Aug 3, 2016 | on jobs, automation, and the future of work (part 3)
Aug 2, 2016 | on building new models that make existing models obsolete
Aug 1, 2016 | waking up in another place is really important when traveling

Jul 2016

Jul 31, 2016 | how to make the decision about what to do in a particular moment: part 2
Jul 30, 2016 | soft and malleable vs hard and brittle
Jul 30, 2016 | writing tip: hemingway style
Jul 29, 2016 | writing tip: writing for an audience of one
Jul 28, 2016 | how to decide what to do in a particular moment
Jul 27, 2016 | communication hierarchies
Jul 26, 2016 | on the ability to discern between urgency and importance
Jul 24, 2016 | on jobs, automation, and the future of work (part 2)
Jul 22, 2016 | on jobs, automation, and the future of work (part 1)
Jul 21, 2016 | two thoughts on power and networks
Jul 20, 2016 | project write up: coffeeshops for the people
Jul 19, 2016 | on the question:” what do you do?”
Jul 18, 2016 | on drift
Jul 17, 2016 | maximizing your happiness range
Jul 17, 2016 | turns out, high functioning people don’t rely much on self-control
Jul 16, 2016 | on collecting other people's deep thoughts
Jul 15, 2016 | why relationships matter (part 2): the johari window
Jul 14, 2016 | why relationships matter
Jul 13, 2016 | gretchen rubin on the secret(s) to happiness
Jul 7, 2016 | sprinters and marathoners
Jul 1, 2016 | 6-month process review on constrained creativity

Jun 2016

Jun 29, 2016 | planning for 50%: indigenous practice
Jun 28, 2016 | on the difference between falling in love and loving
Jun 27, 2016 | logos, brands, and identity systems
Jun 23, 2016 | side projects as a strategy
Jun 22, 2016 | why i schedule six weeks in advance (part 2): becoming allergic to frenzy
Jun 19, 2016 | why i plan my schedule six weeks in advance
Jun 18, 2016 | “it's all here”: american environmental diversity
Jun 17, 2016 | why i want to cap my income
Jun 16, 2016 | why i don’t follow people i will likely never meet (including pop stars and movie actors)
Jun 16, 2016 | my personal framework for making tough decisions
Jun 14, 2016 | on creativity, getting outside of your normal, and gamma brain waves
Jun 14, 2016 | hugs
Jun 11, 2016 | on being an external thinker/processor
Jun 11, 2016 | why i go on walks
Jun 11, 2016 | branding: the aesthetic manifestation of systems thinking
Jun 8, 2016 | on telling and retelling our own personal stories

May 2016

May 30, 2016 | harnessing your emotions: stress
May 29, 2016 | "the world in which doing what you love is a privilege is a world we have failed to design well."
May 28, 2016 | on saying no
May 27, 2016 | done is better than perfect
May 15, 2016 | what is design (to me)? what does it mean to be a designer.
May 14, 2016 | the irony of hoarding
May 9, 2016 | on decision fatigue and cognitive budgets (part 2): on routines and ‘personal systems’
May 8, 2016 | on my ability to integrate
May 7, 2016 | can you be over-networked?

Apr 2016

Apr 21, 2016 | how i work
Apr 17, 2016 | on decision fatigue and cognitive budgets (part 1)
Apr 15, 2016 | “if there’s one thing i learned from fraternity life...”

Mar 2016

Mar 28, 2016 | timelines of change: living everyday like it’s the last one... actually
Mar 15, 2016 | two defining factors – death and faith
Mar 14, 2016 | asters and goldenrods: my design philosophy
Mar 11, 2016 | the danger of tabs as todo lists
Mar 1, 2016 | style and pace of life: boston vs gainesville

Feb 2016

Feb 29, 2016 | adult learning and personal schedule design
Feb 26, 2016 | on spokespeople

Jan 2016

Jan 30, 2016 | liberation from monogamy in the gays
Jan 30, 2016 | anxiety
Jan 30, 2016 | how does oppression hurt the oppressors?
Jan 25, 2016 | designing systems with feedback
Jan 21, 2016 | breakthrough
Jan 17, 2016 | who belongs?
Jan 15, 2016 | systems
Jan 13, 2016 | i love therapy (so far)
Jan 12, 2016 | on the separation of church and self
Jan 11, 2016 | tools are a means to an end
Jan 9, 2016 | methodology: how i work
Jan 9, 2016 | constrained creativity

Jan 2015

Jan 6, 2015 | #Entry 2
Jan 4, 2015 | #Entry 1

Apr 1989

Apr 16, 1989 | silent mornings for lawrence's 35th birthday party weekend