some accountability tips

here are my little tips on asking for accountability from friends/supporters. i wrote these up after a conversation with kathy lebrón in sept/oct 2019 and figured i’d share them more broadly, too. it was only this morning that i realized the accountability she and i were talking about is generally perceived as different than the accountability people talk about in the wake of harm… and yet… i think some of these tips and practices apply to both. #doupledipping

2019/2020 winter pracrtices

slowing ramping up to these right now as fall comes to a close. will be in full effect winter solstice (21 dec) to spring equinox (20 mar). of course, there will be exceptions, but generally speaking i am committing to these practices/behaviors:

tonglen

readings on the practice, tonglen

toxic masculinity: two current problematic narratives

in the last few months, i’ve heard two narratives repeat that i just want to write out here. they have only happened in spaces that were segregated by gender and the space was assumed by most present parties to be all men.

book review: post traumatic slave syndrome